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“[M]anhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice... Manhood is a nurturing concept.”   

Citation
Gilmore, David D. (1990). Manhood in the Making: Cultural Concepts of Masculinity. New Haven, CT: Yale University Press. p. 229.

Context
“When I started researching this book, I was prepared to rediscover the old saw that conventional femininity is nurturing and passive and that masculinity is self-serving, egotistical, and uncaring. But I did not find this. One of my findings here is that manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice. Again and again we find that ‘real’ men are those who give more than they take; they serve others. Real men are generous, even to a fault, like the Mehinaku fisherman, the Samburu cattle-herder, or the Sambia or Dodoth Big Man. Non-men are often those stigmatized as stingy and unproductive. Manhood therefore is a nurturing concept, if we define that term as giving, subventing, or other-directed.”
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